Today I woke up tired. Allergy-ridden and recovering from a late evening run, my body just couldn’t catch up the way it needed last night. I woke and started thinking about my day…all the tasks at hand and all the challenges they represent.
I felt my body tense in response. What if things don’t go my way? What will happen if I don’t get what I want, what I need?
I recently wrote about getting overly emotional. This happens to all of us from time to time. When we wear down (either from circumstances beyond our control or overextending ourselves,) fears and doubts creep up into our minds from those dark corners in which they like to hide.
In this state of mind, I very easily push myself and those around me in the wrong direction. I ask questions for reassurance of myself. If I don’t feel worthy, can you make me feel that way?
This affects the way we talk with everyone for the rest of the day. We approach conversations at work and at home from a position of defensiveness which can push others away. Working from a place of love and hope, we interact with others in a way that pulls them closer and creates a supporting environment for everyone.
On the drive to work, I stopped thinking and started breathing. Slowly, in and out. I felt the doubts and anxiety lessen and realized those emotions drove my actions more than my actions drove those emotions.
In that moment, I chose love and hope over fear and doubt. I will love everyone today regardless of circumstance and will hope that everything will unfold as it should.
The Dalai Lama said, “There is no significant division between us and other people, because our basic natures are the same. If we wish to ensure everyone’s peace and happiness we need to cultivate a healthy respect for the diversity of our peoples and cultures, founded on an understanding of this fundamental sameness of all human beings.”
Because we are all the same, my struggles impact those around me. I need the help of others to overcome my struggles, but I should not lean on them so much that my struggles become theirs. They may choose to share my burden, but that should be a conscious choice…not one that I force upon them. Likewise, I should cultivate an awareness of their burdens. We all struggle every day, but together we can collectively lighten the load.
I will choose to interact with others from a place of love and hope the rest of the day.
When you feel tired or run down, don’t give power to the dark places in your mind. Choose love and hope instead.
We each have the power to create our own reality.
Choose to live in the world you most want to see.